Lily (’21) and Wyatt (’23) Courville

Although my comparisons to my older sister, Lily, occasionally appear while I’m at school, I find them more frequent in my personal life, especially during athletics. My most common comparisons happen during my swim practice. It’s not uncommon to hear “She makes that exact face!” or “You guys act exactly the same!” While these comparisons don’t insult me, it can be quite discouraging and sometimes makes me feel as though I don’t have my own character. Comparisons in these fashions can also overshadow a student with an untrue stereotype. Teachers and peers often let an older sibling’s mistakes define a younger one’s future. It is important for all parties to take this negative pattern, and reshape it into something positive.

Though sometimes discouraging, it’s important to realize that comparison isn’t always meant in a negative light. Being told I share all of the best aspects of my sister is anything but an insult. I think it’s important that these comparisons are formed into compliments, not insults.